Random Thoughts
Pregnancy Censure
Pregnancy is such an amazing and blessed phase to feel the miracle of god but at the same time it can be ruined if your surroundings is filled with toxic people and starts body shaming or bullying you..
Well during my pregnancy I was very mobile. I was working and actively attending certain cultural events. As my weeks were going up, people around me started giving their comments like – you are looking so dull & tired; you have got panda eyes, your tummy is looking so weird, that’s such a huge tummy (staring at my tummy made me feel so weird), you have put on so much of weight, you got swelling on your face / legs / body, why you eat so much etc. (Annoyed!!)
I mean the entire process of pregnancy is tiring plus it changes your body and especially you from within. Can’t we just be kind and really appreciate the pregnant women and understand the sensitivity of the phase she is going through. There are many challenges a lady has to go through during her pregnancy phase like – she has to pee often in night which leads to sleepless nights tending to get her panda eyes, every pregnancy is different and so is the tummy. There is nothing weird in that but the most imp is fetus inside should be healthy, the increase in baby weight leads to swelling on face/body, change in the hormones, whenever the fetus demands food, you have to eat and as they say for every woman pregnancy is different and what not. I mean can we just pause ourself for a minute and think in which direction are we heading. Being a women let’s start adjusting each other’s crown rather than pulling or bullying them.
Instead, can we just start using sentences like you are looking pretty, we are proud you made to office, do you have some kind of cravings, we’ll order your fav food, let’s go out for a stroll, you need to relax. etc. Just showing a little affection and care changes the entire equation for a pregnant woman. She feels more confident and happy.
In my entire pregnancy phase, I came across both kindda ppl who cared for me and who tortured me especially in my work environment which really made me upset. But I am thankful to those set of ppl who have always lifted me up, cheered my mood; especially my husband who took care of me and spoilt me by his pampering.
I hope, next time whenever you will come across any pregnant women, you will be more positive and affirmative in your statements. Till then love yourself and take care.
-thevibrantbirdie
Lady’s Tea- Is the name heard right?
Lady’s Tea!! 😊
Is the name heard right? Ladies and roses are bounded for life. A single rose can uplift a lady’s mood and bring that smile on her face. Well, if you come across the benefit of it I am sure you would really fall for it forever. I am gonna talk about Lady’s tea which is also known as Rose bud tea with lots of benefits inbuilt in it. I have recently encountered with these cute rose buds in a supermarket in a spice section and thought to try it out. You also find tea bags or loose rose leaves in any other brand.
My personal experience with rose bud tea has been great till now. It tastes yum plus it is very healthy and delicious beverage made from either dehydrated or fresh rose petals/bud. When you put this little rose bud in boiling water you will be greeted by awesome fragrance which can instantly uplift your mood. The healing powers of rose petals have been known for centuries, and today they are used to make therapeutic essential oils as well as being enjoyed as a nutritious tea. Rose tea is full of vitamin C and antioxidants making it the ideal drink when your body needs a boost.
Benefits of Rose Bud tea-
- Rose tea helps in boosting the immune system, treating a sore throat and your digestive health.
- It also includes ability to clear toxic waste from the bladder and kidneys and therefore reduces the risk of urinary tract infections.
- Drinking rose tea can also prevent blockages that can be caused by kidney stones.
- Excellent for the skin and the hair.
- It is a healthy, caffeine-free alternative to black tea or coffee.
- Rose tea is sometimes referred to as the ‘lady’s tea’ because of its beneficial effects during a woman’s menstrual cycle.
- High levels of antioxidants and vitamin C.
- It may even help you to lose some weight.
10 Science Backed Benefits of Rose Tea-
- Menstrual Pain
- Skin, Acne and Hair Benefits
- Immune System Boost
- Sore Throat
- Improves Digestion
- Stress and Anxiety
- Urinary Tract (Uti)
- Weight Loss
- Constipation
- It’s Caffeine-Free
Overall, drinking rose flower herbal tea is a great way to relax after a busy day at office, as it can calm the central nervous system, reducing the chance of depression and anxiety. Dried rose tea can also benefit victims of chronic fatigue, insomnia and nervousness when drinking one or two cups per day. Do try it and let me know how did you find this herbal tea.
Positive Thinking + Self-Talk Indeed
We are aware of famous quote said by Swami Vivekananda- “We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”
Let’s check “Is your glass half-empty or half-full?” How you answer this age-old question, about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic.
Positive thinking means that your approach to unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst. Thoughts which we usually throw out of our mind, comes around us. Let put in this way “what goes around, comes around.” Baggage holds you back so let the grudges go. Life reflects back at us what we put into it and pay backs can be tough, so throw some sunshine Karma’s way.
Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head. These spontaneous thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
The problem with our self-talk is that we never question what we say to ourselves to check its accuracy, we just listen to the negative statements day in, day out and like the drip, drip of water on stone. If we keep up excessive, negative internal self-talk saying negative things for long enough, we begin to believe it even if it’s not correct. We just accept it as being true when often it is not, or when it is true, we blow it out of proportion.
Some Examples of Negative Self-Tal
- “I’m such an idiot; I can’t believe I’m so stupid.”
- “This is terrible!” “This is horrible!” “I can’t stand this!”
- “I should be able to handle this; other people can.”
- “Things never go right for me.”
- “I’ll never be able to learn this.”
Self-talk has a powerful effect on our feelings and is often automatic and a habit. Changing our self-talk will not occur overnight, because it has probably taken many years to attain the level of negative self-talk we have achieved, but thinking style is a habit and with time and practice we can change a habit.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you’re likely an optimist.
Putting positive thinking into practice
Negative self-talk
- I’ve never done it before.
- It’s too complicated.
- I don’t have the resources.
Positive thinking
- It’s an opportunity to learn something new.
- I’ll tackle it from a different angle.
- Necessity is the mother of invention
It is important that we begin to look at what we are saying to ourselves this is the first step towards changing our negative self-talk to become more positive. A good way of doing this is to start writing down the things we are saying to ourselves and begin to look at them for their accuracy. Always remember you have to grow inside out. No one can teach you other than your own soul. Till then be optimist, be happy, as life is Precious and comes with lots of Surprises. Take care..
THE IRREPLACEABLE ME!
Hey my cute Birdies
Recently I had a long weekend which I enjoyed like anything plus the weather was so good and cool that it was fun to walk on the beach. While I was just relaxing on beach few thoughts kept crossing through my mind. Why people complicates thing for us or why it is so difficult to say NO to our closed ones in-spite of being so hurt or neglected. Everyone have their own thoughts, their own choices and their own perspective but if you don’t agree to another person’s thoughts, acts, choices, words it does not mean that person is wrong or weird, it just that your thought process are not matching mainly due to surrounding in which that person has been brought up or the experience they had.
In these entire universe, I am exclusive, unique, different, I am irreplaceable and I am what I am. No one can replace me or any of my qualities. We can see other human being near around us having similar characteristics but you cannot say that they both are same. Everyone is unique in their own way and I am enjoying my uniqueness. There will be more qualities in me which the other does not have and that defines the “unique me”. I am unique in the way I think, act, respond, react, express, dream; they are all mine and I have right on all those things. I take responsibility for what I speak, feel, my anger, frustration, irritation, my loudness, blowing my own trumpet, joy, sorrow, happiness, disappointments, success, failures, struggles,etc. No one has walked the road on behalf of me except me so no one has right to judge me if they don’t know in and out of me for the sake of gossiping. There will be the times when the people close to you will start behaving with you in their weirdest way and will try to discourage you or put you down or will be jealous of you. But that time keep your temper cool because they have chosen to behave in that way.
Finally I have decided to become friend with my inner soul because no one can show me clear picture except my inner and pure soul. By doing this it will make me to put all my concentration, focus on my goals, interest and most important to believe in myself. We heard so many times from our grandparents and elders that “person can lie to others but cannot cheat to himself”, which makes so much sense. There are and will be points when I will be confused, puzzled or will be in a dilemma but believing myself will give me courage to look for solutions to my question, to explore more of me and to understand more about me. May be the decision I have taken today can prove to be wrong in future but still I will learn from them and will grow in and out as a better person. It will give me courage to be more thoughtful in my ideas and decision, to be more processed version than I was before and to be more peaceful with my inner soul. Just I need to close the doors of my ears for those people who hate me and fail to see fine of me. I am okay with what I am and I am proud of who I am. I am comfortable with myself and happy with the same. Important is to make peace with the inner soul. So finally I have decided to enjoy my uniqueness and “THE IRREPLACEABLE ME”.
MARRIAGE- UNTOLD THINGS WHICH EVERYONE DEALS WITH
Hey my lovely Angels
Namaste… How you doing all? Today I will be discussing few things of marriage which we usually don’t hear it from our elders or sibling talking much. None of the marriage is perfect in this entire universe. Everyone has their own marital problems but how to deal with those problem is important. As being a part of male dominating society no wonder how much you are educated or you earn, the command will always be in your male’s hand (bitter truth). We have always seen our parents how they cared, loved and most importantly understood each other but we failed to observe those small sacrifices they made which went unnoticed.
Dear birdies don’t be under wrong impression that by taking 7 feras some magic will happen and you will be leading obstacle free life. Your marriage is completely based on the thoughts you share and agree/disagree to your partner one’s and most importantly communicating without hurting them. Whenever you are choosing your life partner it is necessary to check whether their thoughts are matching or in line with yours and if no take a step back.
Parents make believe their children an imaginary world where they will be happy marriage without any obstacles but I guess it is high time to make their children aware about the things they will be facing or dealing after getting married (demanding current scenario). Here I am not talking about domestic violence but all about your behavior towards your partner, the respect you give to your partner’s thoughts, the acceptance of your partner nature’s as it is and more over trusting them. From far every marriage seems to be so perfect until and unless we do not step into their shoe.
(Applicable for both Husband and Wife)
After getting married you will have to deal with many things like your partner’s mental plus financial stability; getting interrupted in between your thought process; their frustration, irritation, ego, blame game, arrogance and anger; repeating your mistakes every time while discussing things; their dilemma and decision making power; not helping you in household chores (which is important in current scenario where both are working); their reaction to the circumstances thrown in front of them by others which sometimes can lead to misunderstanding and dissatisfaction level. There will be times you will have to kill your desires and change your plans you made for life for your partner’s happiness. Many times you will feel like doing particular thing and there will be a big NO from your partner which will upset you, be prepared. Every time you will end up giving lots of explanation to your partner to make your point clear until and unless they understand or you may ask too much of questions which can make your better half uncomfortable or Sometimes you will also feel that do they understand us. They will blame you with different words like impatient, restless nature, making wrong decisions, you are always wrong, irresponsible, extravagant etc. but never put yourself down after hearing those words in spite gather yourself up and be confident. There will be a huge war taking place inside you, your mind, your body, your heart but you will have to keep on fighting with your thoughts for what you wanted and what you had; what you desired and what you got; between satisfaction and dissatisfaction; peace or anger; to speak out your feelings or to be quiet, there is lots more to it.
Don’t forget that god has given you this life to make best of it without hurting others. Remember, you are married to share your inner soul with them and not to depress them or getting depressed by them. Be prepared to sacrifice many things to lead a successful marriage because this is the only Mantra for it without any shortcuts. If you are stucked in your marriage share it with your family or friends they will guide you and show you the way to come out from the dilemma state. Try to understand more and improve your communication. Do take care of your partner choices as they also have few expectation from you. No matter what obstacle comes in your life try to be positive as I have told in my previous post that-
“STARTING AND ENDING ANY RELATIONSHIP IS EASY BUT MAINTENANCE IS DIFFICULT”.
Till then be optimistic be yourself, take care and be happy as life is precious and comes with lots of surprises. Will meet you soon in next post.
Marriage- A Devotion!!
Dear Birdies…
It’s very difficult to choose this topic for writing. As “Marriage” definition varies from women to man and again to unmarried people which have set their certain assumption and perception about marriage by seeing their near around. But Marriage is all about “Devotion”. Devotion toward partners and their respective family.
I have seen youngsters saying this type of statement’ “mere parents bol rahe hai isliye mein shaadi kar rahi hu varna mujhe koi interest nai hai”; “mujhe shaadi kaarni nai hai”, “Shaadi karke kise phasna hai”, “marriage screw your life”; etc, which is not at all true. I guess they are more scared of losing their independence. They need to understand marriage is a blessing, it brings 2 souls together to build a dream castle for them as well as for their generations. Wherever you go in this world you have to adjust with some of the other thing whether it may new place, new friends, new neighbor, colleagues etc., then why we are blowing the trumpet stating that we have to adjust a lot with In-Laws. A lady need to understand that they didn’t got chance to see her since childhood so it will take time for them to understand you.
GIVE TIME
Getting married is completely a new phase of life. It takes us to another level of maturity. We usually have impression that we are matured enough to handle the situation but after marriage our maturity is put to test depending on situation how you handle it. It is abundant to discover each other in new way and situation. We should treasure, there is always a man whether he may be our “husband, brother or father”, supporting and inspiring us through every phase of life. We can say, “Behind every successful woman or happy woman there is always a supporting and inspiring man”. I have personally experienced it how my thoughts have been changed after marriage (for better of course), how beautifully they have treated me, I am more of daughter to them, and my things have been given the first priority, feels so lucky. It’s all about devoting yourself to the family and understanding love language of you partner.
We usually say that I am married to say Mr. X, but I personally believe that while taking those 7 vows you are getting married to his entire family and not that single person. We see our Mothers- Aunts giving tips to their angels “if you want to win every 1 heart first devotee yourself to them and then they will devote themselves to you”.
No doubt there will be a time when things are tough enough to tackle, may be your way of thinking, observing things and perception about life, things, goals is different from you partner, which does not mean that your partner does not care for you or love you, it just you need to take extra effort to explain your partner in some other way round. We need to remind our self that nothing is “FREE” in this world. We have to struggle for each and everything we desire. To start anything and to end anything is easy but to continue or maintain is difficult. Let’s say entering in to new relationship is easy and if it’s not working well than breaking off is too easy but maintenance of relationship is difficult. For any relationship to work we have to nurture, sacrifice and feed relationship to make it sustain. As said “Maintenance is more costly than starting and ending anything”.
Friends, everything in this world needs Devotion. One who is devoted will achieve their paths. I always want my children to see marriage as a blessing, not a curse; a beautiful expression of God’s grace toward us. As I have seen my parents’ marriage filled with love and devotion towards each other. Our children may be watching us, be careful when you act because it can set a blot in their mind for marriage.
Never forget “A Wise women build her home but the foolish woman tear it down with her own hand.”
Take your time, give them time and believe that everything happens, happens for good till then take care my friend. Be optimist #be yourself# God Bless!!